Quote: then goes into the bedroom and wants to me to follow. Closes the door and says "you don't even want me here do you" "you don't say you want me here!" I do, but usually H ignores it or grunts about.
Hi Cathy ... sure has been a bit.
Well, I see he's still going around and around on the "you don't want me..." What if you did a 180 in making a more permenant record that you want with you. Do you have a camcorder? What about making a tape of yourself saying what's in your heart for him to play whenever he needs to hear it. Maybe even make a new one each week saying it a little differently each time so he knows you are saying it in the present tense.
If video is not your thing, it may be just as effective to buy some greeting cards that have different sayings, but all mean the same thing and leave one each day for him to wake up to. One day in the bathroom ... on the kitchen counter ... the dashboard of his vehicle ... maybe one on his pillow in the evening. Could this be the thing he gets from OW that he wishes he was getting more from you instead? It doesn't have to be big and elaborate like OW seems to do, but plenty of little every day things that may make him feel you do care when he sees it.
