When I saw in your post where you said: "I'm led to beleive the A is more of a EA than a PA........" and the thing about his anger.."throwing the cell phone etc."
It would seem H might be displeased with himself these days.....medical conditions compound all these feelings and you are very wise to not take this personally.
You can be assured that this is not about you.
I just read something over in MLC bb, from M Go Blue....I think may shed some light on his feelings about OW......that you could benefit from. His post is under "MLC, Receipe for Sucess,.page 5-6".
That OW is needy...this I'm sure you already know. And for a while there, your H was probably feeling pretty needy too, even if he didn't express this to you. That may have been some of what drew them together and now when he's feeling needy....he has to find other ways to get his needs met. And they don't include HER.
This can be very confusing for them, and patience while they sort it out is key. If you get a chance , maybe you can wander over and read through M go Blues threads...they are filled with insights that I am finding helpful.
Oh yeah, and what KIND OF A PERSON sends CANDY!!!! to a recovering patient!!! OMG!!!
"Take Care" !!!!!!!!!!!!! What does she hope?? That he will eat all that junk and feel better!!!!??????????
