Wow, I don't really have time to write the reply that your most excellent post deserves, but I am so blessed to read how you finally got it. That letting go and letting God isn't just a cliche.
I hope and pray that I am getting to the point where you are at now. A visit with my C yesterday really crystallized some things for me... that the only thing that I am required to do is be obedient to what God tells (or doesn't tell me) to do.
If the rest of the world doesn't like it or doesn't get it, that is their problem. I do not have to answer to anyone but God.
So I am continuing to stand and believe that my marriage will one day be healed and restored, that my H will return.
Your post is reminding me of the verse (I think from Corinthians?) that talks about how we can one day comfort others with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. That is just what you are doing and I say, thank you!