MOJO and IHJ,

I am new to the board and have a long sob story of my own but here is my new found take on something that hit me square in the face tonight. You can read the details on my thread posted 9/11/04 at 9:43 that made me sit up and think bout something very hard. The post is a long one detailing what could have been a very tragic conclusion to our problems.

Now I can obviosuly not relate to HDW as I am a HDH, but I can defintely relate to Hank although I refer the figment of my imagination as Amy since I like women

I agree with both of you about being able to turn the question around on your spouse. But what if, maybe, there is something deeper to ther not wanting to ML then you acknowledge? I figured my W was a typical LDW/NDW dealing with forgiveness issues and relationship issues that caused the LD/ND. I could never have been further from the truth. Read the post for more info.

I guess waht I am saying is after tonight, I almost feel ashamed for wanting my W to contribute to the happiness of our marriage when it turns out she was dealing with far worse "demons" then I would have ever imagined.

BTW, I think both of your deserve to me happy and deserve to have great sex with your H's I have read many posts, some from both of you, and I find your story's to be very insightful.

Last edited by dazedandconfuzed; 09/12/04 02:01 AM.