hmmm. thanks for the insight guys and gal. This would seem to point me towards thinking that maybe my wife's problem really is physiological. But we have tried a lot of different hormonal/medicinal/herbal remedies to no avail. frustrating is what it is. then again (I'm thinking out loud here) here lack of desire, regardless of its roots, does seem to bother her a hell of a lot less than me. who f...ing knows? I think I need to stop worrying about this for a while and take abreak from this board. Too much obsessing can't be good.
The differentiation song:
All I want to do
Is be more like me
And be less like you
Linkin Park