My H's OW also kept telling him that he should give his marriage a chance. I think they do that as a manipulation tactic. It's so ridiculous. It sounds like you are getting the same "lines" that I have. It is just sooo weird how they all talk the same!!!! I never threw out the kid thing but I heard my H talking to a relative and he said that he probably would be gone if it wasn't for his daughter. As far as I'm concerned - whatever keeps them there thinking about their family is good.
I don't blame you for asking him to leave. In fact, I had a deadline of last Monday to ask my H to leave unless something drastic happened. Luckily - something great did happen!! He has not had contact with her for two weeks and he sent her an e-mail last week as "closure" of their relationship! We'll see if it lasts! However, he now talks badly about her and how stupid he was to not see her motive. I don't know if this is normal progression or not... We'll see. Good thing we are going to counseling. We have had a number of single sessions and I don't know this for a fact but I really think the Counselor has been guiding and directing him in doing the right things to get out of this A and on with his life.
My big thing now is that I almost feel like we are pushing this A issue under the carpet. We are trying to work on OUR R but I'm concerned that we aren't addressing this huge cloud hanging over us. Is this ok? Maybe we should work on us first - I don't know. Although he has apologized a couple of times, I just don't feel like he has much remorse for what he did. Will his guilt kick in later? I know it's only been a couple of weeks since he ended it and he has really been working hard at trying to help establish trust again. I'm probably just expecting too much too soon, aren't I? It's just SOOO hard to be patient!!!!!!!!!!!!
