I found out a couple of weeks ago that my H was having an EA (maybe PA). Of course, I had my suspicions but was in TOTAL denial. I got the line of how he "loves me, but isn't in love with me". He's in love with the OW and can't make up his mind whether to be with me and his small child or follow his "heart" and be with her. He changes his direction almost daily - one day I get positive affirmations that we can work it out, the next he is in a downward spiral because of his "love" for her. I really want to get my marriage back. We are going to counseling but his heart isn't in it so we are making no progress. He has stopped "almost" all contact with her but refuses to completely cut ties (he thinks they can be "just friends").
My question is - how do I handle this? He wants to talk to me about his feelings (both for her and his family). This hurts me greatly but I am tired of all of the secrets and lies. Should I listen and be a friendly shoulder to cry on? Do I just wait this out and see what happens? I am such an action-oriented person that I am really struggling waiting for someone else to make a decision! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
