So, the last few nights have been nice. A few days ago, I teasingly asked H why he is so uncomfortable when I am close. He denied it vehemently, and has proceeded to prove that he is not. He is very huggy, kissy these days. He will kiss me at bedtime and ask nicely if that was enough exchange of saliva!!

Last night, we were watching Everybody loves Raymond. It is a show that I love to hate, I can barely stand how stereotypical everyone is...but we still watch it. Last night, Debra was angry with Ray because of something his mother said, and she was all over him. He was loving the angry sex! Anyhoo, H looks over at me and says,"Thats you honey, a lioness is bed" "And what are you?", I asked. Deadpan, he replied, "A cougar." We both burst out laughing.

I am feeling very proud of my H. He seems to have entered multiple crucibles, and settled down very quickly. I'm never sure when this happens because he doesn't verbalize endlessly like me. But his actions show his state of mind very clearly. (SM, you remarked on this a few days ago. I should just listen to your observations on my situation and stop thinking! You have always been right on. )

So the lioness comment threw me because it is the first postive thing I have heard from him about my sexuality since....oh, the early 90s! Later, in bed, he asked me if I was angry. I was suprised, because I certainly wasn't angry and asked him why he thought that. He said,"Well, if you are angry, we can have angry sex." Another round of good laughter.

My H has a great sense of humor. It is one of the things that drew me to him. I can never stay mad at him for too long because he will diffuse just about any situation with his humor. I am looking forward to the sex jokes

J