I am very happy for you and Hubby. You two are going to make it just fine. I really wish that MrsNOP and I could have "gotten it" a decade or so ago. You and husband have a lot of time left to enjoy each other. Eventually, your grandkids will be talking about how well the two of you get along :-)
Outstanding post!
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Thank you for making it through my ramble-a-thon of a post, NOP. Looks I lost the rest of the peanut gallery!
Quote: You two are going to make it just fine.
Yes, I do believe we will. Acceptance is a hard road, and there is a lot of work ahead, but I am excited.
I have a couple of issues that I am still struggling with. I am not ready to post about those yet. It is something I have to resolve before I can throw it out there.
Last night, we had a minor skirmish. H and I have a 10 minute rule, we spend that time before sleeping - usually just talking about mundane things, sometimes it leads to more.
Anyhow, last night I told H that I was going up to bed, and would be waiting for him. He announced that I shouldn't wait up because I was tired and I should go to sleep. Huh? A few minutes later, he came in and said that he realized he was loving me in the way he would want to be loved (sleep), as opposed to the way I wanted to be loved. Could it be? Is he getting it? You think? Anyway, we chatted for a couple of minutes and he gave me a great backrub, after which I slept like a log until 6:30 am.
I'm sorry that I didn't reply to your post Julie. I'm happy for you, but your good attitude makes me feel bad about my bad attitude (how fused is that ). I constantly have to tell myself that my sich isn't exactly analagous to that of everyone else on this board. You're on a roll!
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Julie wrote: ----------- Could it be? Is he getting it? You think? -----------
Oh, I certainly do think he is getting it! He overcame TWO things. (1)He realized that he had missed something with you, (2) he actually got up and did something about it. Acknowledgment and action is a real step toward permanent change.
These are good things.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Please don't apologize. Our situations are so similar, yet vastly different.
I'm thoroughly fused with this board, if that makes you feel any better One of the reasons I am refraining from discussing a couple of my current issues is that I feel I am dealing pretty well with them. By posting here, I am afraid I might actually get infected by the anxiety of others that are at different stages of their journey. Does that make any sense, lol?
Quote: By posting here, I am afraid I might actually get infected by the anxiety of others that are at different stages of their journey. Does that make any sense, lol?
Yes, I have often thought that I should take a break from the board because I've reached a certain level of success. What I'm coming to realize is that there is a reason why I am compelled to keep participating beyond just following the adventures of others. In other words, I keep coming here because on some level I know that I haven't been completely successful in resolving my difficulties.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: PS. Tony, if you are lurking, I must tell you that I dared. I dressed up for him a couple of weeks ago. Fishnet stockings, as requested, and an outfit to go with it. For good measure, I tucked the condom into my thong. I have never seen my H sit up so quickly. He was verrrrry appreciative. He complimented me on my role-play. He jumped my bones again the next night and said. “Surprise, right backatcha.” He let me know in no uncertain terms that this did it for him. My sweet H….who would’ve thunk???? Guess I need to get in touch with my nasty side more.
****** BOING! ******
Yes, it does it for me too!!!!!
PS: There is more than one Tony lurking when you dress like that.........
Quote: PS. Tony, if you are lurking, I must tell you that I dared. I dressed up for him a couple of weeks ago. Fishnet stockings, as requested, and an outfit to go with it. For good measure, I tucked the condom into my thong. I have never seen my H sit up so quickly. He was verrrrry appreciative. He complimented me on my role-play. He jumped my bones again the next night and said. “Surprise, right backatcha.” He let me know in no uncertain terms that this did it for him. My sweet H….who would’ve thunk???? Guess I need to get in touch with my nasty side more.
Dear Julie,
Somehow I missed the last part of your post and just came across it today. That is so hot! And the condom in the thong was a great touch. Way to rev up your sexual imagination. I knew you could be your H's bombshell.
I'm thrilled that you and your H have been able to find ways to connect with each other and take the intimacy in your marriage to a new level. Your success gives me hope for my M.
Sincerely,
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
). I constantly have to tell myself that my sich isn't exactly analagous to that of everyone else on this board. You're on a roll! 
