I think that was a great convo. Have you ever thought of saying something like this to your H.
"What if I told you that in order to be receptive to sex, I needed 5 minutes of breast stimulation. Would you feel like that was a valid request? I understand that you are capable of enjoying sex without a verbally expressed sign of emotional connection, but often I am not. I would hope that you would try to understand what I am telling you and I hope in the future you will make a real effort to satisfy me in this regard in the same way that I would hope that you would try to enjoy satisfying me in terms of breast stimulation rather than just giving me a cursory rub and tweak before getting down to what is the "real business" of sex in your opinion."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
