I was starting to feel much better yesterday from all you folks' lovely support... so I decided that if the opportunity presented itself, I'd have a talk with H.
It did. We were up in the bedroom, kids were downstairs, and H says to me, "do you think we are ever going to have sex again?" And I say to him, "do you think you'll ever tell me that you miss me and you need to be close to me?"
H: "I say that all the time with the way I look at you."
M: "Is that what that is? I thought you just had gas."
M: "Seriously, I need you to desire me emotionally as much as you need me to desire you physically (awesome, Honey, thank you)."
H: "The way I look at you should say it all."
M: "Is there not a huge difference between me just laying there and me being 'into' sex?
H: "Yes."
M: "From my standpoint, I could say you shouldn't be picky, you're getting laid, what more do you want... but there is a difference. I'm sorry if I seem obtuse, honey, but first of all, I'm not real sure which look you are talking about, nor am I clear what it is supposed to be telling me. I need to hear it out of your mouth... that's what's most meaningful to me.
This isn't a competition (thanks MPT)... I'm not asking YOU to give up anything so that I have something and you don't...
