Your wants seem rather simple enough. I can understand them very well. They are very similar to mine as well as the want for my W to ML to me.
The strange thing is that sometimes when I got the opportunity to have the things I wanted (not the ML that was always ok) I refused to accept it because it was not exactly what I wanted.
For instance, I have toldmy W over and over and over that not only would I love to ML, but I would give just about anything to be able to spend some time with her, just the two of us, doing something I wanted to do. I would suggest going on a conoe trip, go play golf, go to a drive in movie, the list goes on.
She would say, lets go fishing, which we both like to do, and so I would say it sounds great lets wade the river. Her response would be I don't want to wade the river I want to go to the lake. Instead of just saying "hey that would be great" and get the opportunity to spend the time with her I wanted, I would not feel like going to the lake and then what could have been a good thing, something I wanted, became something I had no desire to do and would "stew" the entire time which meant we did not enjoy ourselves and was less likely she would want to do something with me again.
Ok got long winded like usual, but the point is, your H may be offering you some of what you want and you are so focused on EXACTLY what you want you don't see he is at least coming part way.
