I think the reason that I keep making the dog/husband analogy is that I was thinking about this movie that I saw when I was a girl. It's called "If a Man Answers" and it stars Sandra Dee. The plot is that a young recently married woman is having trouble with her husband. She asks her mother who is a sophisticated French woman for advice and her mother gives her a dog training manual. The training goes very well until her husband discovers that he is being trained. I forget what happens after that so I think I'll rent a copy and report back after I've watched it.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver