Hi Corri, My feeling is that now that you are on the next level, once again you have to be the leader. If you want H to be more vulnerable, you are going to have to show him the way. But it's a little different than setting limits and expressing your needs. On this level, the "differention task" is to push yourself to show your level of emotion for him. IOW, you are waiting for him to make you "emotionally inspired" but he is still a step behind you. I think you should tap into yourself to see what you can express to him. The next time he asks for a quickie, try not to "allow" that to derail you. Look him in the eyes and tell him you miss him and love him and would like to ML. What I am trying to say is the next time you want vulnerability from him, make yourself vulnerable. Show him what it is you are looking for, and you may find yourself growing and stretching a la PM/differentiation.
