Quote: For me to respond to: "You need to do me," in a sexual way is, for me, emotional mercy sex from him. That line does NOTHING to fuel my love tank or my physical desire. When I initiate sex with my H, I do the things I know he likes so he will respond to me. I do this because I have taken the time to know him. If I just lay there and say, 'you can have sex with me now,' he finds that disgusting. He'd rather just not do it... if I'm not 'into' it, what's the point?
With your explaination of the gardening to give versus gardening to get it is much more clear. Thank you.
