I am not meaning to hijack your thread, but I probably am for a minute...if so hit me with that bat.
I need your perspective desperately. You said:
Quote: So when I want to enjoy sex, I have sex. Otherwise, I don't. See?
How is this different from me HDW saying "if I want to clean the house I will, if I don't I won't"?
I ask this for two reasons, first to see if someone can explain it to me like I am a two year old so I understand. and second to maybe get you thinking about it a little different.
From my side of the fence, there is not any difference when two people speak differnet LL's. If my W is fueled by my cleaning the house and I am fueled by ML, then is it not the same thing?
It sounds so selfish to me that someone would not do something just because they don't feel like it when the whole goal is to enhance the emotional connection between the two people.
I absolutely hate pulling weeds in the flower beds (that is what my company does) when I come home. I would rather have some of my guys do it and put it on the work schedule. My wife enjoys doing it but gets upset if I don't go out and help her. So even though I hate to do it, I know it builds the EC for her so out I go. If we waited until I wanted to do it, the weeds would overtake the entire property and I would care less. Isn't this the same thing as you mentioned above.
I would love to talk to you one on one because I think you could really open my eyes as to how to get me R turned around. From your posts, I think you are very similar to my W.
