The real root of the problem is that he does not value your needs as much as his own. Period. Call it a respect issue. I AM GUILTY of this myself. It took me a long time to realize it. Just ask Mrs. NOP.
In order for him to meet you where you need to be met, he has to realize that "going all the way to the toes" (see HoneyPot's thread) is his job. That means that talking to you, or whatever need is not being met (looks like simple appreciation and acknowledgment to me) IS AS IMPORTANT AS HIS NEED FOR SEX. I will bet you that he simply can't believe that this is true.
It may take a bat to get his attention, but you have to tell him, even if you have to make a sign and hang it over your bed.
Let me know what you think. -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
