PS,

I don't mean to disagree with you and hope my post doesn't sound that way. I'm adding a couple of links to things that I found on the site that I thought were helpful on this topic of respect.

This first one talks about maintaining the lines of respect in a marriage:
http://family.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/family.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=1000


and this one talks about respecting your husband in his role as spiritual leader-- and along the way, gives good examples of showing respect (ie appreciating rather than taking for granted) but does not go all the way into unconditional respect.

Anyway, I found them interesting and thought you might too,.
http://www.family.org/married/comm/a0026370.cfm