So this is piecing...

[trustinginHim]

SC--It is PRECISELY that CONDITIONAL respect that I am struggling with and want to rid myself of!

I have learned today that the issue of UNCONDITIONAL respect is a choice just like unconditional love and forgiveness are choices. You can choose to respect just as you can choose to love just as you can choose to forgive. Or not.

For me to break the crazy cycle of unlove/disrespect that is occurring in my M, with the Lord's help, I must learn how to UNCONDITIONALLY respect my H even after everything he has done, is still doing and will do in the future. And as I do that with my earthly H, I am also unconditionally respecting my Other H, Christ.

Yes, I have Dobson's book "Tough Love". It helped me immensely through this. In fact, when I "opened the cage door" (as Dobson puts it) to let my H go last winter, it was the turning point in my M that led to the beginning of our reconciliation.

LG--approaching respect for her H unconditionally