You will be pleased to know that when he called Monday night at 1 am, I was DBing. He did not get the nth degree from me at all, in fact I never once asked him why he was calling so late, he volunteered that info for me. I was upbeat throughout the entire call, thankful he did call--but I have NOT yet reached the point where I could say, "Don't worry about calling tomorrow if you don't want to, I know you are being good." I did tell him that when he decided to call me the next day, any time would be fine. So he chose to call me earlier rather than later, I suspect so that I wouldn't really know what time he got in, but I am detached enough that I am cool with him withholding that info from me. I haven't heard from him today so I hope he did not miss his plane due to an extrememly late night with the boys. And, he will not be quizzed by me about his night with the boys. That's the best I can offer him at this point, plk.
Quote: IMHO, although you have absolutely no reason to trust H, somehow you have to overtly let him know he can earn your trust. If he did any of the things you are starting to think he did, he's got a long way to go to accept the reality of life again, and is probably having doubts he deserves a second chance.
Yes. I need to work on this with him. He has apparently done some thing(s)that he never wants me to find out about, and BMOW shares some of those secrets with him, thus his interest in keeping her and me separated and not provoking her to blab to me. If she is happy working for the business, then by all means, let's keep her happy! Ugh.
Thanks for the prayer. That was sweet of you.
Blessings, LG
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
He did not get the nth degree from me at all, in fact I never once asked him why he was calling so late, he volunteered that info for me. I was upbeat throughout the entire call, thankful he did call--but I have NOT yet reached the point where I could say, "Don't worry about calling tomorrow if you don't want to, I know you are being good." I did tell him that when he decided to call me the next day, any time would be fine. So he chose to call me earlier rather than later, I suspect so that I wouldn't really know what time he got in, but I am detached enough that I am cool with him withholding that info from me. I haven't heard from him today so I hope he did not miss his plane due to an extrememly late night with the boys. And, he will not be quizzed by me about his night with the boys. That's the best I can offer him at this point, plk.
