UGH! I wonder if *good* DBing makes it too easy for them to think they are doing OK.
Reminds me of the Mars/Venus theory of keeping score. If the woman keeps giving with a smile on her face then he assumes the "score" is close to equal. Then he doesn't get it when she looses it.
All that keeping up appearances makes it easy for them to deny that anything's amiss.
I'm no expert, but I think in your case since he seems somewhat willing to work on the depression I'd get him back on meds before you hit him with the list. (My hubby thinks antidepressants are for sissies and he's disgusted with me for taking them. My answer is I can't cry at work, it's not professional.)
I think it is a positive sign that he's alarmed you may move out again. Woah, what did I just say????
