Hey LG! been awhile.

Spent most of my afternoon catching up with your sitch, so forgive me if I just skip straight to some points.

1) Have you shared with H your revelation about H's R with BMOW being based on AFF?

2) My W has indirectly admitted she may have a sexual addiction, and is practicing abstinence as a form of control. She has decided it is better for her to have no activity than to "give in" to me and risk stimulating a desire to pursue her unhealthy sexual relationship with OM.

Do you think it is possible H is trying to get control of his own sexual addictions? There are a couple threads on Swinging (click here), I was going to recommend chatting with Danzona, aka March Madness, but looks like he has been off the BB since his W filed.

3) I'm not familiar with MLC stages - I probably should be by now - but I'm positive the journey through any emotional stages is not linear. H will waffle back and forth through them until he eventually, and finally, comes to final acceptance.
But I'm confused, if H gave away all his stock in the .dom company, how does he expect to enjoy the financial benefits from the company IF it is successful?

Forgive my ignorance of MLC, but shouldn't H purge himself of EVERYTHING that reminds him of/ keeps him in this stage of his life?

Purging is something he has to decide to do, and it appears that although he is benefiting from your shredding (I have a LOL image of you maniacally laughing with tiny chips of paper filling the air around you as you gleefully jam huge stacks of paper into a tiny wastebasket sized home shredder ), that he may be waffling between gratitude for your help, and resentment of you forcing him to accept reality.

Definitely a call for patience, although I agree with my MC. She doesn't pray for patience any longer, because God keeps testing her to see if she is using what He has given her.

btw: I moved to Jealousy / Infidelity, not a good place to be, but that's where I'm at, I decided to accept it, deal with it, and then move on.

plk