Lost,

I never saw hubby's profile on AFF, but he left the trail of pages in the browser's history when he signed off. One thing that really hurt was that when he gave a reason for leaving, he checked off "I found a friend on this site". I can only HOPE he chose that option because it was the first one.

I found his profile on designerlove because he got an email saying that these were the new profiles added that met the criteria for his last search. And, can you believe it, there was an autologin link in the email that gave his username and password.

I don't need no stinkin spyware, he's not so computer literate that he can cover everything.

I believe him when he mumbled that he might not be able to figure out how to sign off of these sites, because he might not remember all the places he went. Being the frugal guy he is, I am sure they were mostly all free.

He has since discovered how to delete the browser's history but he hasn't discovered how to remove the cache or cookies. I'm certainly not telling. Each and every time I have called him on a specific activity (cell phone calls, emails) he has figured out a way to cover his trail. Well, I'm not doing it anymore.

Just waiting and watching (discreetly, of course).

In my case it is way to soon after the bomb to know what's really going on with him. He says only as much as he needs to. He's never apologized to me, in the 26 years we've been together, that I can remember. He's never been wrong, that he will say out loud. I'm still just watching and waiting. I hope someday I can start getting something back out of this R other than apparent good behavior. Is that asking for the moon?

E.