So this is piecing...

[trustinginHim]

I guess I can't say enough about detachment and keeping the focus on yourself and self-improvement, along with letting go and letting God.

In just a matter of days, my H has almost done a 180 on me in behavior. He has started flirting with me and making sexual innuendo. Wow! What a difference from the past few months. Now he hasn't acted on anything, yet, but I am being at my most patient and have accepted that it will come in time. I am still processing this info, but I am beginning to accept the idea that he prefers to be the pursuer and in control of the relationship (as you mentioned in your email to me SC). I am more than happy to fulfill my role of "pursuee".

Yesterday evening when I got home from church, I found that H had actually gotten off the sofa after dinner and had done some yard work!! This is a HUGE 180 for him. Let me tell you I was validating and reinforcing that behavior like mad. He mentioned at lunch today that he would like to work in the yard together with me after dinner this evening. I was all over that.

I think that my H is finishing up a "season" where he has been further letting go of BMOW and that period of his life. I still get annoyed and hurt that she remains a part of it in even a small way, but I try to look at it as the thorn in my side that keeps my faith strong that the Lord will protect me, just like when He refused to remove the thorn from Paul's side. Who knows?? Perhaps one day I will be rewarded and BMOW will be gone for good from the business and from our lives. I think that is an excellent request to add to my daily list of prayers.

Speaking of BMOW, one of the business partners met with her and her new "fiance" yesterday. The business partner relayed that the new "fiance" is an exact duplicate of her STBXH, only about 5 inches taller. Don't really know what to make of that. I guess I am thankful that this new person in her life is not an exact duplicate of MY H!

God Bless,
LG