LG, I know just how you feel! I struggle too with the lack of a deep connection with my H. I have come to realize that when I push for it, he backs further away.
You two, as my H and I, have gone through a lot together. I have no answers for you, but I did want to tell you that this takes a lot of time and patience. Basically, you have been piecing only since March. That is not that long to undo all the damage that has been done.
He is probably feeling a lot of things that he just can't express to you yet. I find that just being a "safe" person for my H has helped to open up dialogue between us.
When I'm not feeling content, I remind myself of how I felt when my marriage was in serious danger of ending. Then I make myself do something AWAY from the relationship. Mainly I find that the feeling has to do with needing reassurances that I am not getting.
Keep posting. There are so many wise people that can help you here. They certainly helped me!
