Had an ok weekend. My H stopped friday night and worked nights on Sat. When he gets back Sun morning he normally goes to his mums to sleep but this week he came home and went to bed. All seemed ok until he said he was going to watch the football in the pub sun afternoon then stay out all night. I could have really easily have argued with him - why does this get my back up so much? I think its because I struggle to understand why he would want to sit in a pub all day and all night when he could be sat at home with me and our daughter. It winds me up more when I think that the mates he are with are not married and none of them have kids so fair enough its not like they have anything else to do..
I think this is one of the main issues that is effecting our relationship and ultimately stopping my H from moving back home full time. I do not know what to do for the best. I kind of understand where he is coming from but I do not agree or like the amount of time he spends out in the pub at the moment. I know by having a go at him it just pushes him away but sometimes I cannot help myself. We talked sensibly yesterday and he said he really wanted to come back home full time, but its not the right time at the moment as he would just do my head in!! What does this mean? Is he inferring that he knows that I am not happy with him going out so much but at the moment he is not ready to give this up so if he did come home this would continue and cause issues? He says he really wants to come home but he cant until it feels ready. But what is going to make him feel ready? This could ultimately go on for ever!! Feel a bit despondent today and need some motivation to keep going.
