It is really hard to keep your motivation up at times, and from my experiences I do go through periods when I too feel like throwing the towel in and giving up. The effort I have put into my marriage over the past 6 months has completely worn me out. At times I feel really drained. Everyones situation is different, For me when I feel like this I always find I tend to pick myself up a few days later, and then things start becoming really positive again. I had a negative week last week, mainly becuase I felt unwell, but then this weekend I have seen some big steps forward from my H. He now only goes out once a week with his mates, rather than 2 o 3 times as he was doing when we split up. He came round Sunday all day for dinner and stopped until about 10pm. Plus the best of all is he has offered to take me out this Friday for a few drinks and a meal for my birthday!! It was only 2-3 weeks ago that he was saying that he did not feel ready to go out for a night with me yet, as to him that was more or less saying we are back together... So for me at the moment baby steps, however small or large they are are significant to my situation. Things are, and continue to get better every week BUT we do still have bad days when you just think to yourself, will this ever be normal again??
