Be a good friend....kind, easy going, fun....taking good care of YOU! DO NOT BRING UP RELATIONHIP talks anymore...at all! No pressure....can't you see him retreat back and defend himself, everytime you do. I know you have NEED to KNOW what your future holds.....but if you want a future with H, he needs his time....to sort stuff out. He needs to see you doing fine without him living with you....and taking care of your needs.
One thing my H said to me a few weeks back that might apply to you is:
"I really saw your strength of character when you let me go, gave me space....and work things out on your own. You dug deep, while hurting, and worked on you. I saw your strength and was drawn back to you....the real you, without the neediness or fluff."
My quote isn't exact, but that was the jist of it.
Yes, Nik.....I want a recommittment, too......he is 90% there....and yes I still want more.....but I am being more patient than ever. ONly our H's can fix themselves....we have no control.....I sense you want control from your H, you want to know his committment toward you and your family. He can't give it yet.....BE PATIENT.
Just some thoughts.....Hey and a big CONGRATS on the half marathon.....IMPRESSIVE!
