HI all!!! I've been lurking some. Needed to get away for alittle while.
H and I have had 2 or 3 arguments/disagreements this past month about having enough "me" time. We spoke openly and honestly and then came to an agreeable compromise. I think this is what "normal" R should be like.
Anyway, the bottom line is H is still happy being on his own. H admitted that he would act differently if he wanted our R to work out but he is not. It is hard to hear the truth sometimes. This brings me to my question:
I have a question about the upcoming holidays. I emailed H 2 days ago and asked him how he wants to handle the holidays this year. H said he would get back to me after he thinks about it.
I just got off the phone with him and he suggested that we ride to NJ together for thanksgiving and xmas. It is a 9 hr. drive. In the past we always alternate who's family we spend thanksgiving with and then see both family's on xmas day. They live 10 minutes apart.
This year is "my" side of the families year for thanksgiving. H asked if everyone hated him and wouldn't want to see him. I said no, they don't know much of what's going on other than we are S. (they don't know the extent of things.)
H said he would talk to his folks to see what they were doing before he decided.
So...........before we talked I thought I would just drive to NJ by myself with the kids (3 and 5 yr. old)I wasn't looking forward to it but thought that was my only option. I am glad that H is willing to drive with me. It makes it much easier in many ways but harder on my emotions.
