Quote: H, Let me know as soon as you can if you are going to Asheville this weekend. I had told Jen that I wanted to go to the kids soccer game so she had thought we could meet on Sunday to run. If you are away then I will see if she can meet EARLY sat. am before soccer.
Thanks for your help with the kids, Me
Here is H's response to me:
Quote: Listen, I want to say this as nicely as possible, I feel a bit taken advantage of. I am doing my best to help you out and be there for the family, in turn it seem you require more and more of me every day. I don't mind helping you and being around when I need to, but I also want to live my life a little also. I'm glad you are finding so many things to take interest in, but I need some time also.
A while back we had a schedule where I had half of Saturday and all of Sunday to myself. And to be quite honest, I am running around doing so much that sometimes I need that Sunday to sleep in. I am now bringing the kids to school (in most cases) five days a week and bring them home almost as much, and you are the one with the day off.
I don't mind every now and then changing the schedule around (it is something I may need at times also). So if Yoga is something you really want to do, maybe we can find another way to allow you to do that so I can have Sunday to recover from my week. If you don't think any of this is reasonable, please let me know. I really am trying my best to give you time to do your thing, I just ask you consider doing the same for me.
I have not responded back to H yet but this is what I would like to say. BTW, I work 4 days a week and the daycare my son goes to is at my H's work which is a full 30 minutes away. We evenly split who picks up our son but H does bring him to daycare 4-5days a week. Please revamp it as needed, THANKS!!
Quote: H, Since we are getting things off our chest here goes:
If you were the husband you were suppose to be then you could sleep in on Sunday mornings all you want and that would not be a problem. Since you’ve chosen a different path, then YES there will be lots of inconveniences on both sides.
You need to speak your mind when I ask you a question. There is nothing wrong with me asking the question, the problem lies in you not being honest with me at the time I’ve asked the question.
As far as yoga on Sunday, no I will not be doing that again. Last Sunday I wanted to so that I could bond a little more with my running friends that I see very rarely. As far as Jen suggesting we get together this Sunday to run that was due to the fact that I wanted to see the kids play soccer. If I have to run solo then I will.
The house is falling apart. The laundry, carpet, dusting, vacuuming, etc… I never have time alone to do this other than after the kids are in bed and I don’t have the energy to do it then. As I recall you have had almost the past 2 yrs. to do what you want whenever you want.
Under the present circumstances we should just make a schedule and stick with it.
