Quote: I do wonder though, am I truly DB with an "I am happy with my present sitch attitude" or am I accepting less like an abused W would?
I'm pretty sure most of us were not "happy" living in the current DB stich!! I know I wasn't and tho things are starting to work out....and I am relatively "happy"...I still have many uncertain moments while continuing this DB process, but I definately know what my end goal is and I am getting glimpes of it.
That's what I think you need to dig down deep and decide for yourself. Do you really want your H back in your life....the one you fell in love with? Does he still exist...is his basic core buried deep inside and he just needs to work through his issues? Those are some of the things I've had to ask myself this past year....and still do. No my H isn't perfect....neither am I. But now that we are both finally trying....and being careful/gentle...the R is beginning to rebuild. Still sooooooo much we'll have to cover.....sooooo much. But that's where that old "Patience" thing kicks in. It's hard, continual work. Is it worth it to you? Or....are you ready to take life a new direction....on your own....building up Nik and seeing what the future brings.
