((((NIK))))....I'm back and missed you. Wanted to catch up ASAP. Wow, you have really been on the rollar coaster the last month. Tough stuff....rough ride.
I totally agree with waht Jackie just advised.....
Quote: don't know when my mentality shifted away from that and came to accept things as they are, and be happy with what I have, but I'm reaching that stage (at least about my M, so many other things to still stress about!).
Focus on the good on your life. Good luck!
I think that I am even finally getting that concept....you can check my post and I will elaborate my stuff there. But when we finally shift our attitude to accept what we have.....not wanting more RIGHT NOW and wanting it all FIXED right now....just taking what we get from our H's and reinforcing what works....letting time heal, taking care of ourselves....letting our H's figure themselves out....being lovingly distant....CONFIDENT...and loving our kidlets and those around us. Then....over time....a long time.....they may get over the "hump".....
Someone said....I think quoting Haley....that one difficult interaction...bringing up hard issues and causing pain in the R, sets us back at least 5 paces in the healing process. I am starting to "get that"....geez this is hard, constant work.
Continue with the patience....no R talks....let him lead the pace....(that is if you still want this M, only you know that deep in your gut). If you are truly ready to get out, accept you can do this on your own...and that your cores with H are too broken....than go there.
