I have to chime in here to say that it really is hard for an H to return. I know it was hard for mine - but in the end, he did it.
Can you imagine making a big scene about something - and having all your friends and family find out about it - and then having to admit you over-reacted or were wrong?
That is what your H feels like. You are right to be flexible in how things progress. Experimenting with several nights at home - and it might eventually lead to all of them at home!
If it works - go for it. There is no cookie cutter way to make the return smooth. Those of us who have had success can only share what worked for us. I don't know if you recall, but my H moved home without any discussion at all. I am happy to say that was over 3.5 months ago.
Anyway, don't carry the "postponing the inevitable" attitude with you this week okay? Project the "this is the man I love and we have a great family" attitude. You may be surprised to see how that mental shift can do wonders.
Lastly, I agree with whoever said that you should focus on the great parts - and the good parts. It kind of makes the not-so-good parts lose their importance. They may even slip away never to be heard from again.
Good luck!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
