The Fat lady has sung...It's really over this time

[sage]

Nik -- Is it possible that the task feels too daunting to h?

H was now suppose to move home yesterday. We had a "talk" and H does not want to put the effort needed to make our M better. H wants to use his time to be a good dad and pursue an acting career. No time for a R. H does not see himself having a R ever, he wants to do what he wants to do and pursue his dreams.

I'm wondering if the two of you during the "talk" came up with a laundry list of things the M "needed" to be better -- and maybe that felt overwhelming?

I'm shooting in the dark here, obviously, but just thinking that if the M was painted as needing a bunch of "work" that maybe h felt "well, it's gonna take too much to even get there so why try?"

Sage