Brief summary: H 33, Me 34, 3 yr. old and 5 yr. old kids. Bomb hit 2 yrs. ago, NILWY, etc.. Found out this year H had an EA/PA it is now over. We have been S 3x in the past 2 yrs. We get along well. Kids don't know H moved out. I think they think he works at night or something.
Jist: I was the controller and H was the passive one who lied through out our M to avoid conflict at all costs.
We decided to "end" things a few weeks ago then changed our minds. H said he would move back home after his business trip in Aug. H has been procrastinating.
H was now suppose to move home yesterday. We had a "talk" and H does not want to put the effort needed to make our M better. H wants to use his time to be a good dad and pursue an acting career. No time for a R. H does not see himself having a R ever, he wants to do what he wants to do and pursue his dreams.
H said he had thought about the fact that at any time I could get sick of waiting and tell him it's over. H said he did not care if I were to say that. H does not want to be "close" to me.
H wants to continue helping around the house and with the kids. We are planning on telling the kids today that daddy has a new place to live. I think we will leave it at that. Kids are so young.
I hate the thought of sharing the kids at the holidays,etc.. I am so hurt and feel like the bomb hit once again. I come from D parents and it's a life long decision that affects so many people.
Why our M is not salvagable I do not understand. All the issues that H had with me prior to the bomb have been changed. We communicate better. H has learned to be more honest with everyone, etc.. H has no complaints now, he just doesn't love ME.
