LL - please don't take our probing as hostile or uncaring - just the opposite.
It's just that I've read your threads here now for ages, and you really seem to be stuck. We're trying to help you find a new way of seeing things, a new approach, something that takes you out of the bitterness and into a new, better happier you.
Some thoughts: - if your H falls asleep on you every night, either he works too much, has a medical condition (for me, it was my thyroid - 9:00 came and I was hit by a truck every night. Poor H couldn't BEGIn to get a rise out of me after 9!) - or he has clinical depression (why should he be any different than 90% of the WASs?). Maybe he needs some help with this.
As for you - I keep hearing how you feel trapped, how he's making you so unhappy - but I'm not hearing much about what you're doing to make yourself happy, to make your life more exciting and interesting. For me, setting the goal to climb Mt. Whitney was the distraction I needed to get my focus off my H and onto me - what would do it for you? What dreams could you pursue right now? How could you spread your wings?
As for the in-laws - you know, you don't have to love them, just be polite. Pretend they are casual acquaintances you met at a cocktail party, and let their comments roll off your back (and don't be crazy enough to go shopping with MIL again - yuck! ).
And Thanksgiving? Just tell H next year is your turn with your family, then be gracious about the whole thing. Really, you are loading it with all kinds of other anger and resentment that don't belong there.
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