one night a week set asside for us to spend some qt together doing something other than him falling asleep on the couch while pretending to be watching tv with me. This does not require leaving the house or spending any money..it simply means after putting the kids to bed (they're in bed by 8pm) we sit together and play a game of cards or darts or whatever.
I would like more physical intimacy
I don't think there's any way to missinterperet what I want.
Maybe try another medium? We already know talking is NOT his preferred medium. How about in writing? How about in a different place or time of day?
And even that can be misinterpreted - my H's continual pleas for me to change were wrapped in his smoldering anger and interpreted by me as A) a lack of love for me, B) a criticism of me and lack of him "loving me for who I am", and C) a frightening threat that carried an implied "or else I'll leave you" which really kicked in my fears of abandonment. No wonder I couldn't really hear what he was asking me for, with so many layers of fear and meaning wrapped around it!
