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...it does help to know that people don't think I'm just a serial complainer not worthy of a reply...

Oh LL, I know you're not just a complainer, but that you have been struggling in a one-sided R for a very long time and simply, I've run out of suggestions to try. (I'm still willing to drive over there and whack H with a 2x4 if you think it might help! ) ... and I feel foolish to keep sayin' "Hang in there" when you know your grip is slipping. I know how long you've been at this and what you've been thru from your first posts here ... and that you are still seeking hope (after all that is still why you are posting here, is it not?) is worthy of the reverence of a saint.

... but even if you don't see the solutions in grasp for the moment, I guess that's the key ... keeping hope alive!

... and as long as one in the partnership is doing that, there's a chance the M might survive. I'm finally at the position where I'm willing to let go of my hope in order to determine if CAW might ever consider grasping for any glimmer of hope herself. If not I guess we're done. I don't know if there's a way you can find to pass the baton of hope over to him without actually becoming a WAW.

I know its hard with young kids. I would have never made the choice myself because of D11, but in the end that was not up to me and CAW made a choice that made my position irrelevant, so I guess it was easier for me to let go ... but I think you need to consider, while you are steadfast in believing in sacrificing for the kids for so many years, will he continue to be for as long? ... or will it be possible for him to change his mind again?

Oi ... that sounds awful and LL I don't intend it to be. I'm just hoping that maybe exploring some of the darker paths, you might stumble across a lighted one that may help find some direction.

I truly wish I could be of more help to you.

'til later,
KAW