LL, for me i am still at the beginning of my BDing. but i feel just like you do alot. what if i go through all of this mess, and he is the same half time h and part time father he was? i would rather be alone then have that. humm that is definatly something to think about as i worry about the next time he may call, or if i can get my hair just perfect for him???. it actually makes it easier on me. because this man will now have to prove i am worth it before i will accept him again. cuz i am worth it, and i can, at any time, go and find a man who will give me what i deserve. and so can you!