ll, i can feel your frustration about R. and i must say i am very proud of all your efforts to work on yourself, and not let your R lead your life. yes, that is true DBing, and you did and are doing a fantastic job.
i am gonna throw something out to you. your h has basically 2 things in his life that he invests intrest in. 1. lawns and 2. football. i know it would be nice if there was a longer list here, but there is not.
when i first met my h, i hated football. but he loved it, and so did my friends and family. so i got sucked into the game. now i love football. i cant wait for football season and i hate the day after the superbowl. now that h is gone, i still watch football.
i think it all started when i joined a fantasy football league.
i know that you have moved mountains to please this man. and i am not saying fake an intrest in football to get him back. but maybe if you could get into football a little, with your own group of friends. and go places on sundays with these friends to watch the games. this may wake h up a little, and he will want to join you. not you joining him. you going out and enjoying yourself. he will notice especially since it is something he knows he would also enjoy.
and even if he doesnt, who cares, you have found yet another way to make you happy, and another group of friends to connect with.
