Quote: New clothes, new haircut, greatly improved self-image, feeling great about myself , and it didn't make a difference.
are you sure it didn't make a difference?
if you go back and read the point I was trying to make...you did what you're supposed to do.
You feel better about YOU! and that is what is important..not whether or not h notices or changes what he's doing because of it.
Quote: Now he calls all the time, unless he's gone to visit her. He says how much he misses me, asks why I have this wall of reserve up around me, wants to cuddle with me, hold me, kiss me. that's excellent!! what do you say when he asks about the "wall of reserve"? All this from a man who is living in ow's house. I think he's nuts. He can not see what's wrong with the picture. of course he can't but you shouldn't focus on that right now. I'm questionning now, as you are, do I want this man who could treat me this way and not even realize how wrong it is? do you believe he doesn't realize it at all? He wants me to open up now, now that he needs me the most. Where was he when I needed him the most? with her well you can play tit for tat (he wasn't there so why should I be) or you can appreciate the opportunity before you now. the choice becomes up to you.
