Hope you don't mind if I cut in. When I first found out about the A, I started dbing like crazy, and H, at that time, didn't realy seem to notice. He was still too hung up on ow to notice. Well, maybe he noticed a little, but not enough to make a difference. Now, he's still having R with ow, but a long distance one, she's changed jobs and moved to another city. We had one of the best weeks together in mid-August. We were away from home, together with the kids, ml like crazy. Last day of our vaca, found out ow had still been calling him, she didn't know that I was with him, he knew I wouldn't go home with him if he was still involved with her, and he left me at my dad's house to go home alone. It didn't make a difference. New clothes, new haircut, greatly improved self-image, feeling great about myself, and it didn't make a difference.

Now I'm back home, kids had to start school, so I came back home. The day we came home, he was not here. Still on his way home from a visit with ow. He moved out that day and into her house-funished, not sold yet. He's been there about 3 weeks now.

Now he calls all the time, unless he's gone to visit her. He says how much he misses me, asks why I have this wall of reserve up around me, wants to cuddle with me, hold me, kiss me. All this from a man who is living in ow's house. I think he's nuts. He can not see what's wrong with the picture. I'm questionning now, as you are, do I want this man who could treat me this way and not even realize how wrong it is? He wants me to open up now, now that he needs me the most. Where was he when I needed him the most? with her


Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.