Quote: The really sad thing is, if half of them just stopped worrying about the was and just started focusing on improving their own quality of life their was may just get their head out of their a.. and think twice about what they're doing.
I gotta go back to this...isn't getting ones head out of one's A and improving the quality of one's life exactly what Michele articulates as DB'ing? (OK, maybe not the A part ... ) I guess I'm feeling sort of protective about the Db'ing concept...IOW, that the people who are tripping all over themselves to win back the WAS might not be DB'ing to their fullest potential...that if, instead, they focused on themselves, their lives, their goals, that they'd be really DB'ing and who KNOWS what could happen? isn't that pretty much what I said? If the LBS stops playing the control, attachment game and starts bettering their own life the WAS may just wake up and smell the coffee? "act as if" is a db concept no? focussing on oneself instead of the was is a db concept, no? All I'm pointing out is that far to many folks seem to be caught up in a web of if I dress this way, talk this way, do this or do that it may elicit this or that reaction from the was...rather than thinking "gee, I'd like to feel better about myself so I'll do this or that" if it works I'll do more of it. I'm not attacking db at all...I'm simply pointing out that this bb doesn't seem to be much of a db site if you really look around.
) I guess I'm feeling sort of protective about the Db'ing concept...IOW, that the people who are tripping all over themselves to win back the WAS might not be DB'ing to their fullest potential...that if, instead, they focused on themselves, their lives, their goals, that they'd be really DB'ing and who KNOWS what could happen? isn't that pretty much what I said? If the LBS stops playing the control, attachment game and starts bettering their own life the WAS may just wake up and smell the coffee? "act as if" is a db concept no? focussing on oneself instead of the was is a db concept, no? All I'm pointing out is that far to many folks seem to be caught up in a web of if I dress this way, talk this way, do this or do that it may elicit this or that reaction from the was...rather than thinking "gee, I'd like to feel better about myself so I'll do this or that" if it works I'll do more of it. I'm not attacking db at all...I'm simply pointing out that this bb doesn't seem to be much of a db site if you really look around.
