Sage, I guess I can count myself fortunate to be in that "Third gtoup"...as CJ certainly HAS made many changes and is a partner in trying to work on what's left (the ML thing...)
Id like to believe, LL that if he HADN'T, if he was still dicking around, still not reaching out, or working on our M, I'd be gone. (Remember, no kids here and much fewer "marketable years" for me).
I came to the realization that I wouldn't "settle", and I WILL NOT...I reminded CJ during our last argument, that I made myself that promise: "I WILL be loved the way I deserve to be loved"....and it's close, close....
I, too, have seen some behaviours posted which make me cringe. I wonder if what they are doing (or not doing) is positive or negative in the long run.
But then, LL, we can't really put ourselves into anyone else's shoes. Before all of my "crap"...did I think I'd have put up with what CJ put me through?
And YES, I felt like an egg-shell walker, a self-denier for some time in the beginning. But sure as hell, not any more. Like Sage I needed to look inside and make some mighty changes...and I did...for me first, and the M second.
I guess if CJ were stuck in R la la land, I'd either be gone, or a walking ball of rage. Or Maybe it's the no-lunch, extra caffiene talking....
