Sometimes you just don't want to be very active on the boards because you are so drained and I'm getting that feeing that you are at that point. It takes lots of energy to try to work with what you have and still get no resolution from your efforts.
I doubt if you will ever get your questions answered like I know that I will never get mine answered. That's not what we want, but that is the reality of our lives.
Having a realtionship can be a stress on anyone's life. He knows, or should know by now that you are not happy with the bits and pieces that he gives to the kids and to you, that you would really like him to be more involved. Sounds like he is really married to his business and that is a hard mistress to detach from. It's hard to fight that mistress, I know.
With lots of guys, as long as there is a paycheck brought home and some small amounts of affection here and there, that's all that they are capable of giving, but is that what you bargained for when you said "I do?" I could consider my STBX's mistress to be his work, but I rarely got any affection from him, just the paycheck dumped into the joint account and he expected that to be enough. I know that you need more, too.
I hope that your weekend is better. Weather here is supposed to be just lovely and that will help with the painting. Hopefully I'll move in a couple of weeks.
