Yeah, I know a little (text book info only) about Asperger's and your H doesn't quite seem to fit...first thing that popped into my head were those leisurely lunches with ow....grrrr
I guess I'm just kind of beaten down and exhausted (sound familiar) by the unremitting failure of your H to even attempt to meet some of your basic needs. I've thought of you often when CJ and I spend an entire day and evening together, just hanging or bike riding, taking a drive, having/cooking dinner.
It's nearly incomprehensible that your H doesn't GET how little he could do for SO much benefit to your M. Is there ANY novel, crazy, big, small, stupid, smart, drastic way to get him to GET this???
I recall Therapy not really working for you guys in the past (did you go one time on your own and H didn't even ask about it?)...but could a real behaviour focussed C help? WOULD your H be more likely to follow through on homework assignments (like quality time)if it were linked with follow-up visits??
I'm starting to think that might be what it will take for CJ and I to get the PA thing out of the ditch. It's like HE's in a comfort zone in that one area and it's driving me crazy, making me doubt everything else.
