LDH & masturbation

[SolidMechanic]

(He is actually getting home early 'cuz his college football team is playing their first game of the year.)

Lets see? He likes
1) Masterbating while looking at porn, and
2) Watching TV.
Does that sum it all up? He complains about being too tired at the end of a 10 hr day, but it's not like he's a lumberjack. He works in an office, right?

I think he is accustomed to a very passive, low energy life style. You haven't said, but I bet he doesn't exercise, does he? Maybe you could try to get him into an encourage him to adopt a healthier life style, to increase his overall level of activity. Right now the only exercise he gets is in one of his wrists, and 5 minutes every other day does not count as an aerobic workout.

Masterbation and porn go together. You can't separate them. I used to MB while looking at internet porn every day. I realized that I was doing it as a kind of anesthesia to dull the pain of alienation from my wife. I recently quit looking at porn as part of my self improvement plan. I respect myself more more, but I masterbate less as well.

This doesn't exactly help in your situation, because I am motivated and your husband is not. But what I see in him is a consistent pattern of pushing his own pleasure buttons with as little effort as possible. Going out with friends takes much more effort than watching TV; watching the game on TV takes much less effort than working out; masterbating while looking at porn takes much less effort than engaging in an active love life with your wife.

I didn't really offer any solutions, but I hope this might crystallize the true extent of your situation.

Time for the old Solid Mechanic to hit the recumbant exercise bike.

SM