HH wrote:
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but the whole plan (as usual) fell through
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Ah, but seeing the plan through is where you get to put your foot down and stand your ground.

"Hubby, I know you did it today, so how does 9:30 work for you tonight?" If he maintains that he hasn't masturbated in a week and that's why you have had no sex, then toss out the porn stash since he doesn't need it any more.

Any plan sucks if there is no action to back it up.

A while back during the time that my wife and I were addressing a situation where she was sleeping on the couch every night, there were a number of rather heated confrontations. During the last one I decided that if the unwanted behavior reoccurred, the couch would find a new abode on the front lawn. I am strong enough to have thrown it out by myself too. I never had to do it, but I absolutely would have.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.