I agree with NOPkins about making a schedule. H and I had a very erratic sex life, and the thing that got us on our way was the once a week date nite which we both made a commitment to-- no ifs, ands or buts.
Believe it or not, we still mess it up...last Sat( our date nite) H made some unflattering remarks to me which I called him on, confronted him on his need to get me upset to ignite passion, etc etc etc...BUT we still ML. It keeps the connection going while we work out the issues.
IHJ---who will bring up going to a sleazy sex store again on Sat because I am strong, confident and differentiated ( yeah right)
