I hear this over and over again, but as an HDM, I just don't understand it. Why would anybody choose MB over ML with a willing W?
I only have one possible explanation. Unfortunately, that explanation probably applies more to the SSM than to a typical M. I could understand going for the quick and uncomplicated MB in the situation where the W is going to make a big deal of ML and you’re just not up for that. That doesn’t really sound right, so let me try to explain. Sometimes you’re just horny. You don’t want emotional involvement, you don’t want to put a lot of effort into it, you don’t want to talk about it or analyze it; you just want to get your O and go on. If your W is one that will go for the occasional quickie – all the better. If your W is one that will do the occasional “gift” BJ without expecting immediate reciprocation (MM) – that’s good too. But if there’s a problem in the R, if you haven’t ML in a long time and you just know that your W is going to make a big deal out of it, if you’ll feel that you have to give you W an O and you’re just not up to putting forth the effort, then I could see that MB might be appealing.
I honestly could never see me buying that line, but it does present a reasonable explanation. The only catch is that all of the W I've seen complaining about this invariably seem reasonable in their demands; they all seem to understand that sometimes you just want to be done, and don’t have a problem with that. Just take a look at the thread with the discussion about being used as a receptacle. There seems to be nearly universal agreement that it’s OK as long as it’s not the norm and as long as there is real LM going on at other times.
